If I met a man in, coming out of, or going into MLC .. I would run for the hills!!!!!!!!
Actually, I took some time to think about this before I posted my answer.
Given the two scenarios, it would be Scenario #2.
I realize there's no crystal ball to tell me what any man might do. I realize that life is a chance you take.
I also know that I'm comfortable (and safe) in my present single state. There's no great need within me to be a part of a couple. After all the upheaval and uncertainty of the past 6+ years, I enjoy the predictable peace that I wake up to every morning.
I miss the "old" H with all my heart. If MLC hadn't set in (or whatever it was!), then I've no doubt that H and I would have stayed married forever. In an ideal world, H and I could have sought counseling to fix our problems and lived happily ever after.
But .. it didn't work that way. And I'm too exhausted to work through any more issues with H.
With all due respect, a dip in the deep end is too risky. Three years ago, I would have jumped in feet first. So, if it happens at all, it's going to be a long, slow process and that's something I'm reasonably sure that H will not do.
My caution is undoubtedly sabotaging any chance of real reconciliation that H and I might have, but the burning desire to get back together is no longer within me. If it happens, that's wonderful. If not, I can survive okay on my own.
Hmmm.. I just read what I wrote. It sounds like commitment phobia, doesn't it? Lol, maybe I do need some professional counseling after all!!!
Thanks again for asking the questions that make me think.
