Well, I had a good weekend with the kids. Took them to a B-party and they got to hang out with all their friends which is something they really haven’t done in almost a year. W was always the first one to take them to these parties with a big smile and just as giddy as her kids were to join in on the festivities. Of course, not OM is in the picture and she doesn’t want to go because he broke his ankle and she is nursing him. (VOMIT) Also, I believe that she does feel some sort of shame. She’s been avoiding all contact with her former friends. She blames me for doing this because she claims I turned EVERYONE against her and tarnished her reputation.
During the middle of this festivities, I was having a wonderful time then I heard my phone go off.
W had texted me this message… Please note, I had not spoken or texted her all day on Saturday.
“U ruin my life!!! Im not with you and u are still ruining my life! Im depressed and cant stop crying. You are awful… Leave me alone”
I said to myself “Geesh, common already” I simply replied “sorry you feel that way”.
I really don’t have the desire or energy to feed into her madness anymore.
I think Im in a real good place right now. All her threats, name calling, venom spewing and projections are really just bouncing off right now.
Well Sunday morning came and I went to pick the kids for church. Of course, she had an excuse and they weren’t ready to go. She said to please pick them up later after church.
So, I did. When I got there, she texted “ OM is making French toast. He would like to know if you would like some.”
I just about fell out of my car laughing.
Two of my kids came out and my oldest said he didn’t want to come along. I later found out that he went with W and OM to watch OM get tattooed.
It seems like she is desperately trying to get my oldest son and OM to bond.
My son is always asking me if its ok to be friends with OM. I tell him its fine. I don’t want my son to feel guilty or torn in half.
My babies are going through enough. That’s the only frustrating thing about this whole ordeal, W just doesn’t care. Its all about her.
Guys please view my previous post about what happened with W and ex BF. Let me know what you think.
Also, my question to visitors that have been posting here for some time is…
If a separation/divorce does not have MLC involved in it, would the spouses be acting like this at all?
And if it is MLC, what is it that’s going on with them in the brain? Is it carelessness or they have no control and cant see what’s going on?
Me: 37 W: 37 Married Feb 14 1997 Seperated Thanksgiving weekend 2010 No divorce filed yet 1st born son:13 2nd daughter:9 3rd son:4 Trying hard to detach
