I can relate to a lot of what you've stated above TM. Being a people pleaser, etc. It's hard to break out of that mold I know. It's part of who we are, but the people we are tomorrow are not the people we were yesterday. We grow, we change, we adapt and if we recognize it we can become 'better' selves.

I think a lot of us, when working on ourselves, are doing so for the sake of the R and not truly for the self. I'm not sure that it matters either way though I'm sure many would argue that it does. Any case, as long as we keep up with our growth we will be fine.

My only quibble (I like that word:) is the use of 'never' in your last paragraph. Is trust likely between you and your W? Possibly not, but we really *ahem* never know what life will bring us.

Hang in there TM, you'll be alright!

Me 43 W 38
M 5 T 7
SD20
S15, S13 with 1st W
ILYBNILWY June 2010
Separation/Bomb July 2010
Divorce Feb 8, 2011