Let's Create Some Mystery.........

[Laurie]

Hello JCM,
Glad to hear you're continuing with mystery stratigies! If you don't mind, I'd like to share these great ideas with others - thanks.

Helping your spouse see more clearly what they're giving up by letting you go is a pretty loving agenda, I believe. Jealousy can act like a "wake-up" service. Giving your spouse a clearer picture of what it would feel like if you moved on with your own life, helps them face more quickly the reality of their decision.

However, I would like to caution that bringing in a 3rd party (which I know has been an option some of you've considered) to create jealousy may create some toxic anger from the spouse. Plus, it seems to me in this case, that the 3rd party is just being used as an object to create jealousy.

JCM, I think you sound like you are doing a great job! And your support to others on the BB is so appreciated!