25yearsmloc and others: spoke with H a few days ago. He came to the house. He is talking about R. No action but words again. Difft words this time. So, this time I said I know where I went wrong and am working on those things BUT, I cannot go back to living the way we were before. Things would have to be different. NEw and improved.
He didn't like this too much. I told him -I can't live with the drinking and the lies. We need to communicate. I said things couldn't be like the used to be but better. He claimed things were good when he was here for him. Just never realized it!! Well, I can't say the same. So, can I have a little input on how I did with this response? Were those good boundaries? I did validate some in the conversation. But, I felt strong yesterday. My future looks good and I know what I want.
