W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore.

[Snowman]

Thanks for all the great feedback. I know that I need to control what I can control which is me. I realized my wife took my wife sons favorite movie without me even knowing and I decided that I would not let it bother me. I got another copy and just fixed the problem myself.

I will after reflecting some more and getting a copy of DR that I really do think my wife has a psychiatric problem of bipolar or depression. This is not just based off what has happened recently but through our entire marriage. I know my wife's counselor who is a psychologist referred her to a psychiatrist so that is a 3rd party see such symptoms. She has not told me or others that love her about it other than she went. My wife has always seemed have lashing out anger problems, anger, feeling empty, communication problems, and we even got her test by an endocrinologists for that as a possible problem. Many people are convinced she has this problem as well, even her own family members. I'm not trying to place blame on her as I think I have things to work on but I really think she has an undiagnosed issue. I love her and want to help her but she has shut me out maybe due to being embarrassed about it or whatever else, who knows. Everyone that showed concern about her issue she has pretty much pushed out of her life so I think that is a tell tell sign that there is something to it but she doesn't want to deal with it or hear it.

I agree that working on my marriage is not "wimpy" stance at all and it is by far the hardest thing to do. I will keep working on making me a better person and make the changes I want to make.

I'm going to see my MIL tomorrow that about died through the experience I explained above. She has helped me through my situation and I feel good about going to see her. I'm going with my BIL as the rest of my W's family knows I love them and support them. Thanks for all the great help and advice. Keep it coming to help me get through this.