to kml I know I need to stop pursuing him and give him a chance to get in touch with his feelings. Maybe the "last resort" isn't exactly what I'm doing, but I am definitely going to stop pursuit.
I have NO idea why he stressed out so much. Unless it is because he was expecting me to get him into a difficult conversation. He takes us out to eat and we have spent lots of time in public together as a family ever since the baby was born (3 yrs)
A "once a week date" is one of my goals. I think there will be baby steps to get to that point, though. Or maybe after this last time, he will realize that all I want is for us to have each other's undivided attention (the baby is a contstant distraction) and enjoy each other's company. Michele says spending time together is so crucial.
I am not sure, but I think his issues may have something to do with him losing his arm at age 4. I knew when I first met him, and before we got involved romantically that he had serious issues and I read "Men Who Can't Love" and shared it with him. He has gotten some counseling in the past, but he said it didn't help.
Yes, I have the Five Love Languages book. I am not sure what his love language is. I know what my main ones are, and he's not speaking my language(s)(#1 words of affirmation-like telling me I'm pretty, he cares for me, etc. But he has no problem telling me I'm a good Mom.#2 Quality Time-time ALONE with him. #3Physical Touch-which I get sometimes, but usually I initiate it and it isn't very intimate, though I think this might be turning around)I try to speak ALL languages with him. I constantly tell him how much I admire and appreciate him and how important he is, I give him gifts and do things for him whenever I get the opportunity. I touch him often and I spend as much time as possible with him and it is almost always pleasant (but always as a "family", not as a "couple".
