No chance of a wife in Turkey. He's been here for 16 or 17 years and hasn't been to Turkey at all in 6.
The thing is that I got really upset when he said if I was going to date, he would too. He was celibate as long as I was and apparently would continue. I REALLY have a huge issue with my kids having stepfamilies. I went on one coffee date 2 years ago and really freaked out...I kept thinking that guy should go back to his wife and I felt like I should be with the father of my child. Almost 2 years later, I got a little farther dating another man, but when the new guy wanted to get physical, I freaked out thinking nobody should be touching me but the father of my child.
I don't think I'll ever have an ideal relationship with this guy, but he is a very good man, I like him, we get along.
I'm afraid that "The devil I know is better than the devil I don't" and "a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush" and I have a good, honest, reliable man in my life who is a devoted father and is friendly to me. I have gotten to know him well and become very comfortable with him over the past 4 years. I have no guarantee that any new man might love me forever. Without that guarantee, I feel like I'd just best stay where I am and try to change the relationship for the better. I haven't "tried everything" yet.
He HAS become more affectionate, so I think that is a step in the right direction.
I have absolutely no desire at this point to start dating again. It is very scary and stressful.
