Keeping hope alive - Ctflor Part ll

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CTflor, it is when they are most difficult to trust that they need you to show that you do. It is so important to them, broken as they are. Don't keep on pushing, and act "as if" everything will be all right, BUT do not expect. Do not hold them to their word. I think yur H is basically good, has strong core values, but because of what happened is fighting guilt and also trying to find his way back to you. He is not quite there yet, and remember no matter what you do you cannot force someone to love you.

Read my threads,look for Cyrena's posts to me. I have one in Piecing, and several in MLC.

I think they wuld resonate with you.

You know, I think if you are careful, your sitch will resolve even faster than mine. Find it in your heart to forgive your H, really and truly, and let go of the anger and the resentment! I think thats the only trouble when the sitch resolves quickly, there is not much time to learn forgiveness on the part of the LBS and sometimes, we can push them right back into OW. I think thats what happened to me - my H actually ended it with OW in November but because of my actions I pushed him right back!

But anyway, I still did have a lot to learn, so maybe it was all part of why this all happened. I would not have really realized all I needed to had it not all played out fully.

I hope though for your sake that you learn from all we have passed through here, and that it will help you gothrough with all of this.

Take care, and hugs to you!