NEED ADVICE

[workinghardguy]

Unfortunately Gunny you can't show her, she has to see it for herself. Of course physically being gone makes that harder... however, know that even if she was in the same room as you that would be no guarantee that she'd see it any better.

From reading these boards and from my own experience, one common condition is that the WAS is unbelievably self-absorbed. Not necessarily vain... just so consumed by their own dissonance, craziness, and issues that they can't see things happening right in front of them.

I have seen some posts about people using Facebook as a PR tool. Posting photos of their GAL activities, updates, positive attitude, etc... Of course that only works if you're both on Facebook and FB works both directions so prepare yourself to see what she's doing.

Otherwise you have to rely on her hearing about it through friends, acquaintances, and others.

But ultimately the changes you are embarking on, are for YOU not for her anyway. So maybe she notices, maybe she doesn't. But in the end it's for you and she's a secondary actor.