...making a change in some direction that speeds things up or changes your situation.
Not sure what you're meaning here, but my situation has changed drastically as far as taking care and providing since the bomb dropped. Speeding things up is also what I've done since I started school full-time instead of part time. We are worlds different from where we were a year ago, and she is very pleased with the direction I'm taking my life.
However, as noted and discussed, she's not willing to be married to be married to me anymore. She understands, at least on a superficial level, how me not being around is going to affect her life and work, and says she's okay with that. While I'm fairly sure that me not providing for the past 5 years has had something to do with all of this, may have even driven it, the changes I've made thus far have shut down any criticism on her part of that aspect of our relationship. Her only question now is, will I finish it.
