Just updating to say that I feel a lot better. Whenever I get down about all of this nonsense or feel that I need a good reality check, I head over to SurvivingInfidelity.com and take a look at the FAQs on that site. One particular FAQ is titled "To a BS from a WS," and it features many questions asked by LBS' that are subsequently answered by former WAS'. It stands to reason that a former WAS would understand more about the WAS mindset than anybody.
Basically, these answers reassure me that no, my W's affair is not my fault in any way; yes, her A has way more to do with her brokenness than my perceived inadequacy as an H; yes, my W is acting like a total alien right now and will hopefully in time return to Planet Earth; and no, I should probably not believe anything that comes out of her mouth.
Also, it makes me realize that my W could have done a lot more to save our M than she did. I rarely felt like we were a "team" when it came to problems in our M toward the end. She basically would tell me that she was upset about things (usually blaming only me for her problems), then essentially said, "Change this or else." Sorry, but that approach rarely works with anybody. If she had wanted to work on us, there were much better ways to go about it than she did. (Especially by having an A, but we all know that.)
