D9 had an ATA karate tournament today and the whole family went. The drive was an hour each way and we had a great time. Wife and I chatted the whole way. Had a good time watching and everything, well just seemed good. Got home about 4:30pm.
Wife was cooking dinner and I stuck my foot in my mouth. I asked what her plans were for the evening. She said "nothing, why do you ask?" Well I already knew that she was planning on going out this evening with some friends to see one of her fav local bands play. Heck, I bet she's seen them play a half dozen times in the last 7 weeks. Anyway I said," well it's Sat night and just figured you were heading out tonight." She replies, "I'm just getting out on the weekend to avoid 'this', 'our situation'. Then she follows with, "We really need to tell the kids!". I ask what's the rush? She tells me that with all the family functions coming up, she doesn't want the kids to hear it from someone else. Implying that some of their cousins know because my W's bother and sister in law know and probably talk about it around their kids. I can't confirm or deny this.
This conversation carries out to the deck where we both have a smoke. Wife brought up the 30 days to respond. She is in the belief that I have to be out at the end of the 30 days. I just nodded and said I'm working on it. I don't believe it for a second, but would like for someone chime in on this. We talked of visitation that is worded on the dissolution summons that states..
"..with the Petitioner designated as the primary custodian subject to the Respondent's, XXX..ME..XXX, rights of resonable visitation."
I basically said that was unacceptable. That I'd like it worded as we've discussed numerous times. Thurs night to Sun night every weekend. Yeah, I know a long shot there. Were both civil and understand and agree that we're both good parents. Her fear is that I wouldn't be flexible. I'm feeling the same of her. I said to her, "You know me. Would I do something like that?" She said, "I don't know? Do you think I'd do something like that to you?" Here's where the crappola hit the fan! "You've been spitefull in the past and yes I do believe you could do that to me." She instantly was hurt. Her eyes watered and stated, "Now you just p1ssed me off! Apparently you don't know me!!" That ended out convo as she snuffed her smoke and stormed inside and proceeded to cook dinner.
Well at around 8:30 she comes into the living room and says that she is going out. That she forgot it was her friends birthday night out. So, here i sit knowing that she's out with friends, really ticked off at me.
as the World turns.......
Me:38 W:35 T:13 M:10 (3/15/01) SD:12 D:9 S:4 Need time to think: 7/19/11 D Bomb Dropped: 8/26/11 W serves me D papers: 9/6/11 Officially served 9/30/11
