I am very much guilty of being passive aggressive in the past. Thank you for your thoughts, adinva.
I was very passive aggressive during our marriage. I'd grumble and groan, but do what I didn't want to do anyway. I'd say I was doing it to please him, but I'd make myself unhappy in the process. Hence my mind changing once he got here. Because of him being used to my passive aggressive behavior, he was fully expecting to just get his way. I feel like I did a 180 by standing my ground. Yes, it was a flimsy 180, since it started off wrong; but I feel I finished strongly. Guess I'm learning as I go along. Add all this to the fact that he has been shirking his parenting responsibilities since he left me. I think it was high time I stood up for my kids and myself.
