Do I stay or do I go?

[aeolianchaos]

Hey anyhope..

Is it snowing up there yet, eh?

It does sound like your H has a very unrealistic notion of what it means to be in a committed loving R.

I can't weigh in on the MLC because its not something I know about, but his behavior is pretty odd.

Your argument does have merit and while it perhaps isn't always "DB" keep in mind that DB isn't a set of rules.. it's an approach to dealing w/ relationships that borrows heavily from Brief Solutions Focused Therapy. So.. if that works for you.. well it works. OK.

If it doesn't... try not doing that.

How does this whole experience affect you? Are you able to function well despite this?