W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore.

[workinghardguy]

What do you want to happen? If you want to call her bluff, then call it... but if it's not a bluff then I hope you're ready for the fallout.

You'll hear on these boards that you should add "right now" on the end of almost any WAS comment, saying, or action. She's all over the map right now... she really made you angry, ok....

Ultimately you're in control of yourself. So she unfairly yelled at you and was harsh and mean. No offense, but big deal... yes it hurts but that can't be the first time that's happened in your life. You can forgive her and move along or you can't. But if you can't forgive over something like that then it's going to be a long, long road.

Last night my wife and I discussed her hiding from the world that we are married on her Facebook profile. It really hurt me. She didn't intend that to happen, she didn't even think I'd notice. She just didn't want the reminder of all the dysfunction every time she's on there. Well, that's what she says at least and I can only take her words at their value.

So I could remain angry at her and let it poison me, poison my day with the kids, and poison the PMA I continue to work on. Or I can let it go... it's her life, her FB page, and ultimately her choice. I can have a great day with the kids, forge a stronger bond with them, and provide her even more reason to find a bond a with me or renew our bond.

You absolutely can't make it about her working on things. Because you have no control over that. If she does... great. If not, you can still work on you and hope it makes a difference.

In the end you end up with a better you and maybe a better M. But if not at least you get a better you.