Though I'm REALLY BAD at #4 - this is where I keep getting into trouble.
I wrote him a couple emails today that were very to the point - one about finances (natural consequence is D and I don't stay in our home - and he wants us to but doesn't want to contribue). The other was about therapy - I agreed we get out of our current MC b/c she is really unprofessional and he can find someone. I said my new IC can recommend people, and he can call her if he wants (he said he'd find someone) I also said we can go back to her one more time to continue what we started about money and see if we can get through October - and go from there.
Then I wrote just to ask how D was doing today b/c I didn't know where they were and she had a vaccine yesterday - the first time she didn't react too well to it and the pediatrician wanted me to keep an eye on her.
But it was good - felt "proactive" rather than sitting here worrying and not wanting to demand anything from him .. etc. I just did what felt right. And I owned it.
