Do I stay or do I go?

[anyhope]

We went out last night with friends as a group.. Didn't really interact throughout the night. Ow called him just before we left and as a mood setter (for me) he started the conversation with an I love you so much..
I can't remember the last time he told me that.. I do remember years back when I would say to him I loved him and he wouldn't say it back and if I asked why he'd say love is something you feel, not something you have to say to the other all the time, which made sence I guess, except now I hear him say it to her over and over.. And it really really makes me think if he ever loved me.. On the way home it was just the two of us and he had said to me that everything is still the same between us. Same as it's been the last while.. He trusts and respects me deeply and I'm a friend to him like no one else, but he just isn't in love with me anymore.. Needless to say despite all rules given on here the tears just streamed down my face and I wondered for a sec.. Is this MLC? Everything fits the mlc profile perfectly.. Or what if our marriage was just a mistake from the start and it's not mlc, it's just a person really looking inside and realizing he's in the wrong boat..

Well either way.. My emotions were stronger than the brain and insead of agreeing with what I just heard I had to objet to things which turned into a slight argument, but it wasn't anything really serious.

My argument was.. How could he respect me and love me as a friend and still manage to come home one night and announce to his wife (who btw is a really good friend) that he was with a girl.. I mean.. Who does that? (and at the time this happened he really told me this as if he was talking to a friend and expected me not to be bothered, since our relationship was no longer great) I really could not believe it.. And even now when I mentioned this.. I said to him he has to realize that both of us come from homes with loveless, failed marriages. Non of us grew up experiencing what a happy balanced marriage looks like.. With that being said it is very possible that we lack the skills to communicate and make things better, but it doesn't mean we just give up, and change spouses like we'd change a shoe once one is worn out.

He's response... He did the right thing by telling me.. Better than having an affair behind my back. So :)) I said to him.. Did it ever cross your mind that years ago when you started feeling 'no love' for me, you sit me down and break up with me and we cry a little, but still have love and respect for each other..

I can't recall his response, because I may have been already arguing just based on the fact that this option never crossed his mind..