NYC Peter,
My suggestion is that it may be time to check out the MLC forum. That unhappy for years phrase...is a good clue that this isn't a typical WAW.
If you do a search for Cadet and his welcoming posts you'll find a wealth of information.
The MLC for dummies is a laugh/cry document, see if any of it fits.


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