NYC Peter, My suggestion is that it may be time to check out the MLC forum. That unhappy for years phrase...is a good clue that this isn't a typical WAW. If you do a search for Cadet and his welcoming posts you'll find a wealth of information. The MLC for dummies is a laugh/cry document, see if any of it fits.
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.