Doing some good GALing. Just have this weird feeling though and still not sure how to handle this with DBing b/c it seems to backfire on me - whenever I GAL, exBF gets angry.
Like I have wed. nights and fri nights and sundays with d so I usually try to plan something - last night, i went to my sister's for dinner, and D got to see her cousin. Sunday I have a bday party, next Wed. is girls night out with my mom and sister and the kids - Friday I have a friend coming with her daughters to watch D so she and I can have dinner and catch up. I love this - I love having revolving times I can see my friends and family - today, even, I'm finally having coffee in a little while with my "new" neighbor who moved in in the SPRING! and I'm just sitting down with her now (late spring is when all this started happening) ... I love building friendships, being in a community - I'm wanting to settle down in the next year or so and I'm testing out here as a possible option and one other area (b/c I have friends down there as well).
exBF never really saw the importance in this. He's SUPER antisocial, but I was reading in my coaching book that people with a lot of emotional wounds behave this way (sheild themselves from others) and so he's on his own path - but why, then, when I go out with friends does he get all "I don't get to see my friends."
HE HONESTLY DOESN'T HAVE ANY!!!!!! I don't mean that to sound mean, but I tried for three years to cultivate friendships with his couple friends and have them over, etc. He never wanted to.
Same with the gym. I barely go now b/c I've been so busy, but the one time I went a few weeks ago he was like "I never get to go to the gym."
ARGH - DUDE! Seriously? Go. To. The. Gym. It's across the street from this apartment. He has a membership. Go.
That's what I do. I don't wait for the right moment. I just jet over there when I can.
