I realize now how much of an avoider my H was. If he didn't want to deal with it, he put his head in the sand, ignored it and hoped it would go away. The only time he dealt with serious issues was when he could no longer hide from them. When he was backed into a corner was the only time he faced them head on. Of course by that time, he wasn't able to get an optimal outcome because he had let it go for so long.
Either hide from something or run from it to avoid dealing with it, whether it be with issues or emotions is all the same to my MLCer.
