W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore.

[MrBond]

"She claims she is working on herself or whatever but how can you be working on something and mean while shoving me out of your life and acting like an idiot."

That's your perspective. You're not your W. Your big issue is that you don't like not having control over your W's actions. Let that go. Control your own actions and see how you can lead her actions. For her, "working things out" doesn't mean with you. She means within herself. She wants to experience other guys or whatever, unfortunately that's her choice. She may find out she doesn't like it and that she likes what she has with you instead. You don't know and you can't control it.

And most importantly, you're not taking a "wimpy" stance. Standing for your M is the most toughest thing anyone can do. When your W runs away then that's wimpy.