Just returned from walk with dog....H had gone to gym early...5:30ish. I walked in from walk with pooch and he had written me this note:
"Hi Babe (since when does he call me that? he calls OW "Babe"), Sorry I missed you...maybe I will pass you on your walk..... Love you
Then I walked in just as he was leaving and he told me I should really bring my cell phone...in case of an emergency or if the kids were trying to reach me. I wanted to laugh in his face! The kids know they can almost always reach me....but not him. What a joke. I was walking the dog and didn't have any pockets and didn't bring it. Big deal! Gone at most for an hour. Seriously.....he never answers his cell phone for hours (I'm talkin 5+ on the weekends.) WHATEVER!
Venting as usual....
Hey! It is raining! Love it.......
Me - 49 H - 56 S - 23 D - 20 Married 25 years H moved out 10/11/13 H moved back in 10/13/13 H moved out again 8/1/14
So last night...was helping H get paperwork together for a prospective client meeting tonight. Pulled up his reference list and we edited them together one by one...THEN...came to the former couple (H's now OW and her former husband). He said to KEEP him (her ex-husband) on the list and delete her. I said definitely get rid of her and I pounded on the keys to remove her sorry *ss name, email and phone number. I think he felt uncomfortable. And the computer locked up while all of this was happening.
Looking back...I should have said...
....well shouldn't she stay on the list? Afterall, she would probably be a GREAT reference for you since you have helped her out so much.....
If only I had that quicker comeback. Instead it just triggered all of the emotions and I got myself upset and he just tried to act normal. WEIRD.
Me - 49 H - 56 S - 23 D - 20 Married 25 years H moved out 10/11/13 H moved back in 10/13/13 H moved out again 8/1/14
Just returned from walk with dog....H had gone to gym early...5:30ish. I walked in from walk with pooch and he had written me this note:
"Hi Babe (since when does he call me that? he calls OW "Babe"), Sorry I missed you...maybe I will pass you on your walk..... Love you
Then I walked in just as he was leaving and he told me I should really bring my cell phone...in case of an emergency or if the kids were trying to reach me. I wanted to laugh in his face! The kids know they can almost always reach me....but not him. What a joke. I was walking the dog and didn't have any pockets and didn't bring it. Big deal! Gone at most for an hour. Seriously.....he never answers his cell phone for hours (I'm talkin 5+ on the weekends.) WHATEVER!
Venting as usual....
Hey! It is raining! Love it.......
I guess you are really close to me you must be from LA.
Yeah...typical behavior from one extreme to the next you just never know
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H met with prospective client the other night. Client has a distinctive last name that H recognized from California history, and he mentioned to him this GREAT BOOK that he read about California history as it began in Spain/Mexico. H always talks about this book. It was a gift from OW before she was divorced from her H. I should have realized back then something was going on.
He loaned the book out and he kept saying "I wish I could remember the name of that book. I can find out." Well... sure he can.......OW has a copy of the same book. He knows that I know that she gave him the book so I just give him a blank stare when he raves about it. Back when it was in our bookcase I had a good mind to throw it out!
Anyway, hoping H gets this job. It is in complete other direction from where OW is building her house. Won't be as convenient for him to stop by.
So now I am guessing he occupies his day managing her project (for free) and then I guess working on the bid for this new job. But where he works on that I have no idea. Not in the home office.
I asked H if he wanted to fool around this a.m. and instead he said I'm going to the gym but when I get back. I shouldn't say or offer anything should I?
I like what Kaffe Diem said in a post that I read: "Your best bet is to thought stop, detach and stay out of your emotions regarding your H". Good advice.
On that note...headed to the gym!
Me - 49 H - 56 S - 23 D - 20 Married 25 years H moved out 10/11/13 H moved back in 10/13/13 H moved out again 8/1/14
I started my full-time job this week. Empowering! Even though it is half the pay that I was making 5 years ago before being laid off from my corporate banking job when our office closed......
Still.....It feels good bringing home the bacon.
Me - 49 H - 56 S - 23 D - 20 Married 25 years H moved out 10/11/13 H moved back in 10/13/13 H moved out again 8/1/14
so since H hasn't had much work this last week, he has been acting stranger than usual. or maybe he is around more so i notice it.
1) back to his working out twice a day (same as when he started up with OW)
2) i came home from work because i forgot my new hire paperwork on the counter and when i walked in, he was in the office and i heard him slam the laptop shut. later....noticed he had visited a porn website. ugh. but....i get it i guess. better that than OW.
3) he acts like a CAGED CAT. seriously! he came home today about the same time as me, and he wanted us to do a bike ride together....but i told him i have a meeting with all of my GFs to plan our girl's trip. so he went on a "bike ride" alone and said he was going to get a drink. whatever!
my girl's trip is in a few weeks. part of me wants to double back and catch him NOT at our house that weekend....but then i think about all the fun i'll be missing not going with my friends to wine country.
Hmmmmmm.......decisions......WINE AND FRIENDS.....or.... CATCHING A CHEATER.......what would you choose?
new job is boring but now have great benefits. have to plan fun things to look forward to or i'll go crazy sitting in an office 8 hrs a day looking at a computer.
xo, abbey
Me - 49 H - 56 S - 23 D - 20 Married 25 years H moved out 10/11/13 H moved back in 10/13/13 H moved out again 8/1/14
