I totally understand the "victim" mode. I have been, for the longest time, only been talking to my friends about my situation, and as you say, feeling that the only interesting thing about me are my "poor me" stories. Then I came to the realization that my poor friends are probably so tired of all my whining, so I now have stopped talking about it, except when asked.
I was just mulling this morning about the kind of person I have become. While its true that the sitch has brought about many good changes in me, especially when it comes to being patient, and compassionate, and slow to anger, it also has blunted the more passionate and exciting side of me.
I think I need to find my passion and rediscover my true self, with the needed changes. I am not finding myself attractive right now, so how will my H think of me?
BINGO!! and your d is watching too. THIS is the time to be the most passionate you've ever been. Not the least...Dressing differently, younger and more sensually (not necessarily sexy but womanly--embrace that part of you and be LESS predictable.
I went skydiving for my birthday when h was starting to come around. He loved that I did that...so did I. In fact I did it again with my s25 and d22 AND H!
there were other things but that's one. You can be less dramatic but don't you dare become complacent seeming or, dare I say it, boring?
No --now is the time for MORE PASSION....life is short. What are you waiting for?
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
