Also the rollers coaster gradually slows down, and changes to a baby coaster.
Reconnection is a good sign. I think it is a sign that they are losing their fear of being judged. For my H, one of the big signs for me was when he confided to his brother about what he is going through. To me, it meant that his decision to stay with us was definite, and that he was no longer afraid of the fallout between him and his family as he was making the "right decision" in their eyes.
In my case, OW has decided to go back to her home country. I think H at first went through a denial stage, then depression, and now I see him gradually accepting and sloooowly letting go. He even has admitted to me that his feelings for OW has waned, and asked me to just let him handle it his way, and that it will just die a natural death. He actually told me that whenever I do something to try to control the situation, it just makes him feel rebellious and want to go back to OW. He said that had I just let it go months ago, he might have been over it by now.
So while not yet out of Replay, I would estimate that my H is just about to exit it.
Weird that he can know it but not control it, eh?
Anyway, I hope this helps you to detach and keep going.....
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
