Everwhere is walking distance if you have the time

[ClingingToHope]

I actually didn't open the mail. It was a stack of bills sitting there. That's not really a defense though.

One of the things that hangs out in the back of my head comes from MWD's first book. I think she had in there that 75 percent of the WASs, after five years, wish they'd stuck it out because the grass isn't greener. So I guess that's what I keep trying to figure out -- if that realization is hitting her. It shouldn't matter. Maybe someday it won't matter.

The house remains an issue in my brain. For a long time, I didn't want her to sell because in my head I felt that would be it. Now, I want her to sell. I don't want to go over there and be flooded with those memories.

Of course, the girls want to stay. XW keeps taking them to open houses and they are much smaller and they give her brave faces, but really they don't want to move. Would you?

And these are houses she's looking to buy. If the house does sell, it'll be a short sale, and if she does file Chapter 13, the combination of those things will make her credit so bad the best she'll be able to do is rent. Then the pets likely have to go to grandma's.

That's all down the road though. Those are things she'll have to learn, and unfortunately will have to drag the girls through.

Today's road is fairly clear. Find a way to get through the winter as cheaply as possible. When February and March roll around, I should be on much more solid footing financially.

I exchanged some Facebook messages with OKC this morning. On Monday, when I'm back from Chicago I'll try to nail down a second lunch date and go from there.

I still haven't reupped on Match and I may wait a few more weeks. I might as well let the OKC thing play itself out.