Hey, NTX... I was just checking to see if you had updated your thread. Thanks for checking in with me; I hope things have been drama-free for you the last few days.
On my husband's way home, he texted me that this trip has made him realize he wants and needs to move back home. Yes, this is great news!!! We had a goal of him returning home around the holidays, but he's ready to officially start the process. I am proceeding with caution; I do not want to end up in this same predicament 6 months, a year or even several years down the road. I told him I'm thrilled he wants to return, but 100% commitment on both our parts to sticking to our changes is absolutely necessary; if he isn't ready to make that full commitment, we need to take more time. I also told him I don't want him to return because he feels like he "needs" to; I want him to WANT to live together as a family. He assured me this is the case. So...we go from here.
The kids and I were thrilled to see him last night. He arrived around dinner time, helped with some homework and put the kids to bed. He ended up staying the night, but the kids don't know that (he was gone before I woke them). They definitely know things are going well, as he embraced me when he got home last night in front of them, and we are obviously spending a lot of time together getting along. This is a FAR stretch from how things were in July!
I have some concerns and worry, most of all for the kids that he could twist off again, but I'm doing what I have to do...sticking to the changes I have made, working on my goals, maintaining necessary boundaries, etc. I suppose I'll start my next thread in "Piecing" and will still need the support of this board. My journey is far from over!
