4B, gotcha on the thanks giving thing... We had always gone to FIL's cabin for TG and last year, I still went... the OM hadn't been realized at this time...
This year, I won't be there, my folks won't be there, my sister and her family won't be there... there's going to be at least 8 people "missing" from the table... the new OM will probably be there, but it would be nothing more than interesting to see the dynamic and hear the meal prayer... anyhow, not bugging me, just a thought I had, today...
As far as how to make yourself "attractive"...? uhhhhh... Well, thing is... I don't know if this would work for your H...
I like a woman who has strength of character, who dresses sexy (while still "appropriate", KWIM) when out and about but doesn't obsess about herself, either... I like a woman who likes to have fun, likes to get dirty (like "real" camping, not this camper stuff), who is a bit handy... I like a woman who is flirty, but emotionally and morally stable, and who isn't afraid to approach me...
That's some basic stuff, but your H might find a lot of that potentially pushy... so IDK...
What I would say though, is... just... be his friend... I like that in a woman, too... not doting and smothering, but just... hang with him, listen to him, chat with him... support him when he's feeling down (not the "issue" but rather the emotion of being down) by being there and helping lighten his mood... and hey... if you have some specialty desert that you make best... nothing wrong with bribing him with some home made apple pies or banana bread...
