yes boundaries. Logically I know I need to do that, I just don't even know where to start, but I've made the decision to start trying. I'm going to have to figure out what boundaries make sense, and which ones don't, as they mostly relate to our kids. Still unsure about the whole intimacy thing, but I am going to try my darnest to dial that back. Really - what do I have to lose at this point? I NEVER call him, and rarely text him unless I have to ask him to watch the boys or something. He usually texts me first and I never text him right back, unless he has something urgent to ask me etc (again usually about the boys). I would love to create that 'air' of mystery, but again I am wondering how to do that..
This week/weekend is really hard - Thanksgiving is when we separated last year. I have made no thanksgiving plans, but I know he plans on taking the boys to his big family dinner. I think this is a good time to start detaching more though, as I'm already a bit down about the holiday, and I find it easier to detach when I'm feeling sad. I know that's probably the opposite for some people. I just figure if i can get through the sad times, while picturing my future without him, then again I will be okay.
