KML - you're right - it's not ganging up! Doh! I *feel* that way, but I'm learning that's b/c I haven't had healthy boundaries in place that i can get to feeling overwhelmed in sitches like that (as I have with exBF - which is when I overreact) or on here, or in the face of conflict, etc. I get "mean" or defensive I think in place of a healthy boundary. Hence this new IC who is really empowering me differently than I have ever experienced in my life.
I *feel* that way, but I'm learning that's b/c I haven't had healthy boundaries in place that i can get to feeling overwhelmed in sitches like that (as I have with exBF - which is when I overreact) or on here, or in the face of conflict, etc. I get "mean" or defensive I think in place of a healthy boundary. Hence this new IC who is really empowering me differently than I have ever experienced in my life.