Hello...I'm not sure if many here will remember me...it's been awhile. I just wanted to check in and give a little update...
It appears that I am finally off the MLC roller coaster...permanently I hope! I've been divorced now for almost 10 months, but here is the kicker, my XH and I have been getting along pretty well (really better than that but I don't want to jinx anything!). My XH seems like he is almost the man he used to be...improved in some ways and still lacking in a few others. Things are good...he now seems to be committed to the relationship and wants to be with me almost every night. He still has a place that he can go to when he needs space however he has given me a key and invites me to join him when he stays there. In fact, next month he will be moving out of that place into a weekend place we are buying together.
My XH has been more stable, caring and respectful and makes me feel like he truly cares and appreciates. He is now acknowledging the depression he was experiencing however he still feels that what he did was justified and says that nothing would have changed if had not done what he had done. I try to acknowledge what he says even though I don't necessarily agree.
So, things are good...not perfect...but without a doubt, improving almost everyday. Will we get remarried?...I can't answer that right now but for the moment that is ok. I think we have both learned to adapt and appreciate the little things so much more!
My advice for all newbies...trust your gut. People do go through crisises so don't let other people make you doubt that. Now, that being said, that doesn't mean you should be a door mat. I don't mean to be cliche but if you don't respect yourself, no one else will.
