I basically made every classic mistake when this all happened, from trying to fix it every which way to telling her she has a psychiatric problem which I still don't rule out because she went to a psychiatrist last week.
That very well may be and you should not rule it out.
If she DOES have phsychiatric problem. What then?
Was your control related to the fear of this?
What control does she have if this is the case?
What control do you have?
Snowman, this is not an easy answer, but the questions...
They are why you are here.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
