Im just going to give up.

[25yearsmlc]

ps Rue

I don't know where you live or the laws of where you are, but your L does.

Ask them the questions you are asking us. Don't worry so much about "the costs"

and lining the pockets of the L's as your h will pound over and over.

I am a L and would never dream of representing myself. I hired a L I trusted. I hope you did the same.

BTW it was my L who said 'file for a sep and NOT a div, b/c I believe you two have a shot at reconciling..."

you certainly cannot trust your h's opinions.

DBing does work but by your tone here, in which I sense despair and sadness

I don't hear a lot of div busting.

Sorry Rue, but what I hear is hoplessness since July, and that's not DBing.
(have not read your thread prior to then)

Also your kids need to have a r with him and I think your chances of a recon are higher with them having a r with him than without.

By punishing him, if that's what their no contact is meant to do,

they are pushing him more towards OW. Do you see my point?

Ask yourself what you are bringing to the table, as of today, that would make your h think marriage to you now, could be better and different than before.

you keep saying you don't know how to be anything but a homemaker...

really?

You can't learn a new skill? Did you know how to cook and raise kids when you married? no, you learned...and you can learn other things too.

Bottom line is

I don't hear why your h would believe marriage to you, from this day forward,

would be better than before. It has to be. Surely you have changed and grown...

But if He cannot see that, then he probably won't return.


Do you see what I'm saying? Can you tell us 2 traits you worked on that you wanted to change in you

that you have changed? Some behavioral 180s? And what are your GAL?

I really want to hear about all that. That is DBing.

hang in there