W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore.

[Snowman]

Well I have been going up and down on the detaching. I have done good on not contacting her or bugging her about anything but on the other hand I have had a hard time not obsessing over her and checking on phone records and what not.

I know I'm the typical fixer person describe in many posts on this forum and I'm working on that for myself. I do think I was to controlling or the dominate spouse in the relationship and I'm working on that but it is hard at this point to show that to my spouse when I'm in LRT mode. I come from a family of fixers and I realize that and my oldest sister that went through a stitch with her husband realizes this as well.

I basically made every classic mistake when this all happened, from trying to fix it every which way to telling her she has a psychiatric problem which I still don't rule out because she went to a psychiatrist last week. Anyway on working on letting go and trying to be the father to my son and person I can be. Make slow progress with some backsliding here and there but I'm making progress I think.

My IC recommended the book "Hold me tight" and I'm also thinking of getting Tough Love and/or DR. What does everyone think about these books considering my situation?

I think my wife deleting her FB is a good thing because that's on less avenue for inappropriate relations. Her texting died out today and was mostly to known numbers. It makes me wonder if she is finally turning around or what. i guess I should not speculate to much but I'm trying to stay positive about it. Have not heard any feedback from anyone on here for a while so something would be nice.