6. Do not ask for help from family members or friends. Don't discuss private matters with them that would upset your spouse.
12.Act "as if" you are moving on with your life with or without them and that you are going to be okay. Keep a good attitude.
15.When at home with your spouse, (if you usually start the conversation---then don't, wait for him/her) then, be rather scarce or with your words, but don't sound rude or too short like you are mad. If your spouse asks what's wrong....just say "nothing" and have a pleasant expression on your face. Keep it short and simple. Don't get into an argument! Stay polite and don’ t act like you are pouting. Use poise and class. This does not mean to act like you aren’t speaking, but don’t be overly talkative.
I was rereading the list and these jumped out at me as things I still need to get better at. I'm relatively solid on the rest of it, but one (or 3 in this case) chink in the armor is enough to finish it. It is not easy, but I continue to find that it is for the best.
