Why is it you think you messed up?!? Seems like you were honest there, don't you think? I don't think that's messed up. I think that's being honest and a man (you stuck up for yourself).
Good for you.
One thing that came to mind. Your W is like a teenager. She is rebellious. When you feed into that, you help propel that.
Think of it like this: a teenager goes out behind the barn to smoke. They know it's something they'll get in trouble for. So they "sneak" it openly. But what happens when you stop being that father figure? When you stop feeding into it?
The "excitement" of doing something you should not goes away.
Think about that Tad.
Meanwhile, don't let the other stuff rile you. It's expected. I expected it at least.
And then she blames you (twists the conversation) when you don't "play along"? All because you don't do what she wants?
Does that sound healthy to you Tad? That sounds like somebody who doesn't have the tools to deal with life. That's sounds childish and perverse if she wants to care.
Is that what you want to be treated like? If so, go for it. If not, then you MUST stand up for yourself and not expect her to be respectful until you demand it.
Could be a while, but your choices may be limited.
My 0.04 worth.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
