Finally confronted H on affair...Now what????

[25yearsmlc]

wow Keep,

that's a lot of BRAVE introspective work you have done. I mean, I'm impressed.

And moved.

And a bit encouraged about what he said towards the end. It means that he DOES acknowledge that you can change...


this is crucial. If you can show consistency in the changes you make and LOSE that anger...and GAL

(for YOU especially but also for your kids to see b/c they are watching and need to know what strong people do when they suffer blows to their heart, for they will face them too. They need to know that yes you can feel pain but it's not fatal and it's not eternal..)

THEN when the time comes for him and OW to discover that not all is well and
not all is fine and smooth

and that indeed HE will have to do work in that R too

....and with her kids too...


then he's very likely to revisit the issue of reconciling with you.

At least that's what I believe.

Keep doing YOUR work b/c no matter what, you will be a better woman when you come out of this on the other side and your future r's with him

or anyone else for that matter, will greatly improve.

That's a valuable legacy for your kids to see.

((( )))