Back home - but for how long?

[Harrier]

Newsflash! - you are controlling. At least about this.

I know you think you have a very good reason for this. But you realize the harder you push, the more she will push back and it could lead you down the path you do not want to go. You need to see things from her POV. You are seeing actions with your eyes.

Personally, I think it fits in with what your IC said.

for you can't simply say "I'm not going to do it." That isn't working for you. You need to figure out why it bothers you and how you can deal with the feelings her going out brings.

Believe me. if you think your marriage is worth saving...you will get past this. Once you do, things can really start to open up.