Do what I can but still have questions 4

[soccerwife]

hello everyone... I just looked back through all the old posts I have been missing for a couple weeks and you all posted some really great information for me.

To those that asked/or were concerned, I am seeing a phsycologist who is trained in cognitive behavioral therapy and he is already helping me with the suicidal thoughts and the "black and white lense" issue. I know that threatening suicide was not productive, it only made H angry with me and pushed him away. This comes up every couple of weeks for me and I know it is a huge problem that I need to work on. I don't believe that I would ever actually follow through with hurting myself, but sometimes I just can't shake the feeling, even with the meds I am on.

Someone asked me a few pages back for an update on the MF MF program and I have to say that now that I am finished with the entire thing, I am completely sold on it. I could certainly see how it is difficult to implement when you are seperated from your spouse. Many of the suggestions MF makes can only be done face to face with your spouse. However, no pain, no gain.

I actually catch myself laughing occasionally because my H behaves EXACTLY as MF predicts to the things I am doing.

I don't consider it pursuit but I can see how a very literal viewer of DB would think that it is pursuit. I feel that the MF techniques can be applied right alongside DBing. In fact, I think the two authors should get together and develop a SUPER PROGRAM!!! Heck, lets also throw in the 5 love languages author, and some of the other experts and make a program that makes the obstinant spouse completely powerless to love. HaHaHaHaHaHa!!!!!!! (that is my evil laugh)

One of the best things about the MF program... you get to download your actual Q&A session and listen to it over and over again. I have probably listened to MF answer my personal questions at least 50 times already, no joke. It is my source of inspiration. It gives me the motivation I need to stay on track each day. If I know H is going to get on my back about something, I listed to MF and I am A-OK.

If Michele or one of the dbmods is listening to me right now, here is a suggestion... allow clients who call in to download their session so they can review it when needed.