Telemark, It's good that you've been able to take a good, hard, look at yourself, see how you've contributed to the downslide of the M, and own your part of it. However, all you own is part of it. Your W has seen a problem and applied a very inappropriate solution. She has chosen the path of destruction. You have done otherwise. You are clearly NOT that man anymore.
Originally Posted By: Telemark
I realized that I had become very co-dependent on my W for my happiness.
I think many of us are guilty of that to some extent. However, if I haven't learned anything else, I've learned our happiness is not our spouse's responsibility. It's our own responsibility. It's a choice we have to make every day, IMO.
I think you're in the same position as many of us here. We don't want our spouses back until they've at least shown some progress in working through their own issues. In some cases, I think some of us would really like some more time to work on ourselves.
