And will process it more before being specific...only a few "L" comments
* if the worst that she can do is pay half, and you are requesting that
then what does she have to lose by NOT mediating? Why shouldn't she fight for more, strategically speaking?
Ha - I would expect nothing less 25. What she would lose by us not mediating and us using lawyers, well then everything would go on the table. Our 401k (which I took off) and individual/together debt. (which I didn't even consider until this morning.. I don't think she did either).
Our savings would be gone in an instant due to lawyer fees. We would lose more to try and get more. We both know that.
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
Oh, and if you are going to count assets jointly as 50/50
then why isn't it fair to count contributions that way too? (I.e. the health insurance...)
as for your increased rent, good point, except,
HER rent went up too
(and fault is legally irrelevant).
I've thought about this too. It's something I need to pray about. I'm struggling to deal with the fact that I could very easily take things off the list, but w couldn't unless they were birthday gifts. She used the fact that she loved me to make me feel bad (I don't think purposely) but that's hard to swallow at the moment. I need to go through my feelings to get to a place that I can think instead of react.
Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
Well, enough for now. I got too specific too soon,
sorry
No worries. I look forward to hearing your thoughts whether they are L comments or DB comments.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
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