she thinks she has to really let you have it harder so you'll find get the picture. That is why she's getting meaner, and she will continue to show how nasty she can be...if she's pressed.
You're right, she's only said the really mean things when she's pressed. Thankfully I've been calm enough that that's only happened a handful of times since January.
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So, if your W has not used these exact words with you, I'll say them. IMO, she has lost respect and sexual attraction.
I honestly don't care at all right now about sexual attraction from her. She does tell me how good I look (lost about 35 lbs and gotten my 6 pack back), but while it's nice it really comes secondary to the rest. For me, loss of respect is the big one and she's danced around it but not used those words. It does go hand in hand with trust, and we've acknowledged the loss of that.
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The reason she doesn't "believe in you" is b/c of all the dream puffs you've handed her in the past. With every new job, didn't you try to paint a brighter future?
This is true, even with schooling. To echo my reply to 25 above, I cannot influence if she believes in me or not with anything other than actions, and she's not willing to wait any longer.
Thus far you have been greatly helpful in helping me to understand my W's POV, thank you. However, I'm still at a loss for potential ways to earn respect and trust, if possible. I've done what I said I would do in January, turned my life completely around, and while she says it's appreciated, it apparently has no impact on her respect level for me.
