Volume II

[Finah]

Don't beat yourself up too much.

Not saying you can't look at yourself....but keep perspective.

Your WW.........I'd hate to say it.........but she doesn't get it.......and honestly probably never will.

Maybe one day she will wake up, but if she hasn't learned her lesson in the 2nd marriage.....man I don't know.
I am sorry this is a terrible thing to go through.

Just understand. A lot of this. Has nothing to do with you. It's your WW. And very little to do w/ POSOM. Whom I will bet she will eventually leave.........you can almost guarantee that.

You could of been the perfect H.......and she probably would of found a reason to see another man regardless.

People like your WW, like my WW, something is missing in them. So they search for it. And when they think they find it they hold on to it.........so tight....... they end up destroying it b/c they are fused with it.

So then they find something else. Then something else. It's a pattern they repeat with everything in their life.

I bet some of your co-dependency was due to your W honestly. Partners eventually rub off on each other, they pick up things, not saying it's bad or good, but it's inevitable when you spend any significant amount of time with one person.

Co-dependency is just another way of saying emotional fusion.
And ur WW was and is probably out of balance in that regard. Anytime where she hits a rough patch.....instead of putting in work......she escapes to fill the void.

I don't know if you have read Passionate Marriage........but check it out if haven't.

Stay strong