Gunny in this site there is a solution focus post see if that helps. I have the same problem, don't know what it is about 4am? Also how did you find the support groups. I have not been able to find one.

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M 53
D 20
Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24
Together 26 yrs
Married 16
W Filed for D 7/21/11
Served 9/6/11
D final 8/28/12

“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”

John Wooden