The relationship talk is all from her, all contact is initiated by her, so if she wants to talk, I talk and listen.
I just agree with all she says basically, and to be honest she is right!! I did isolate her and she did feel lonely, I caused that, I know that.
She found comfort in another man, I understand why, I think it was wrong, and it hurts, but its the truth and it did happen.
We both know how much we love each other, she has never denied it, but she is hurting, and also like MrB said probably scared.
So all I can do is listen validate and be there for her if she wants to talk.
I'm doing changes on me, for me and my kids, it will benefit her, but that is not the reason for doing it.
My meetings are going well, its once a week, I don't have a sponsor, but to be honest I don't think I need 1??
I'm really good, I feel healthy, and I have friends I can call if I ever feel too low
I said that last night to my wife, that i'm probably the healthiest I have been in a long time, I'm fit and happy, but I do feel down when I think about "us", she just said she understood, not sure if that meant she felt the same, or she was just being understanding??
The next hearing is early November, she has pushed everything, I'm just going along with it now, not helping, but not being akward with it, it's all at her pace.
In fact everything is at her pace now!! All contact is from here, all relationship talk is from her, everything is from her!!!
But it is nice to be friendly again
Who knows what is going on in her head at times?
All I know is that this is far from over even after divorce
Divorce is only a word, my love for my wife is forever, and we both know that.
