It is time to regain your power. I don't mean in an ego-tripping, arrogant sense. What I am referring to is your confidence and self-worth.Your joie de vivre. Your mojo. Who is your wife to have taken your power from you? Did she take it or did you willingly hand it over gift-wrapped with a bow on top? Why would any of us give so much power to another person?
There comes a point when this gets to be about saving yourself. Saving yourself is not selfish, it is necessary. Get her out of your head even if she remains in your heart. She is like a movie which you keep in the DVD machine, constantly pressing pause and replay so that you can you pick apart and analyse every little piece of dialogue til you know it by heart. I know it is tough. Not moving forward and detaching will be tougher in the long run. Detach. Move forward. Let Tad be Tad. Let your W be herself. It may taste awful at first but it works.
Have you ever had a relative or a friend who you love dearly but with whom you can no longer maintain a healthy relationship? You may have given it your all, you may have tried your best but for some reason that person has destructive habits and just isn't changing or has turned into someone you no longer know. What do you do? You keep them in your heart but you give them space to work on themselves. You realize that it is not healthy to wear yourself down constantly worrying and wondering about them. You let go and let God while living YOUR BEST LIFE.
What is your plan going forward? What new life do you desire for yourself? How will you create it? This may not be where you planned to be but it is where you are. This is your new movie...press start. Remember, it is your movie. Right now your wife is starring in her own drama.
