25yearsmlc- Want to run this by you as you know my sitch. Spoke with H a few days ago. I am feeling guilty. Not sure if I should be. H has been by see his kids twice- first time in four months or so. Its all great but each time I initiated it. Fine again. But, now its bothering me. He has never in 7 months initiated anything. I feel his kids need him so I have encouraged it. There were many weeks of NC. But, now when he comes but has to leave it is not easy. Nor is it when he never calls back to talk or see them. They almost go through the rejection thing all over. So, I called him today and told him fairly calmly that I would no longer initiate contact with him. If I need to speak to him it will be through email. Please remember we rarely speak anyway but only when I call. I told him his kids need him and I would get out of the way if it meant he would see them. No, he said. I didn't need to do that. He also missed another milestone this week and I told him he shouldve been here. And, reminded him he is the loser in all of this. He said he knows. He told me I don't know what to do. I said yes you do. There are people who would help if he wanted. Many tears were shed by both of us again. Much reminising was done on each side. I told him he walked away if he wants he can walk back. So, was I too hard on him? Did I guilt him? DId I remind him of why he left cause I am so mean? (in his mind) I am sick of it. I am hoping these are boundaried-I don't know. Can I just have some input? Please
