This was after that earlier fiasco that started last Thursday and ended with me going to the police at the urgings of two friends after he took D against my wishes.
Ummmm...wow. A father who has EQUAL RIGHTS to his daughter decides to go somewhere with her and because it's not what and when YOU want him to do so, you go to the POLICE? I don't blame him for wanting to go through the courts - if I were him I would see you as a very very dangerous loose cannon. He needs to get some court-ordered visitation ASAP to protect himself from YOU. And he needs to have as little as possible to do with you before you start accusing him of abuse. (If I were advising him, I would tell him to never be alone in a room with you again, so that he always has a witness who can testify that he didn't abuse you).
Seriously, Lola - he's not abusive just because he doesn't want to play along anymore with your extremely controlling ways where D is concerned. He shouldn't be treated like he's stealing his own daughter just because he has a different idea than you.
And if he hadn't been trying so hard to cooperate with you, he would have gone to court long ago, gotten 2 nights a week and every other weekend, and would have been taking her for all those times to his place. THAT'S REALITY.
I suggest you reassure him promptly about that whole abuse pamphlet before he feels compelled to try for full custody. I am sure right now he sees you as very dangerous, perhaps as the kind of woman who would make false claims of abuse in order to keep him from seeing his daughter. From a strictly tactical point of view, it would be a good idea for you to defuse that notion.
Yeah, maybe he wasn't the nicest guy to you. But you definitely were not the nicest woman to him either.
