Thanks, 25. I did see a lawyer last week. It was a very informative visit. I think she would be good representation for me, if we come to that. H and I will be trying pre-filing mediation. Tomorrow, we are supposed to fill out the Parenting Plan. I hope we don't butt heads too much on those matters (I don't think we will) - I just don't feel like dealing with his hostility right now.
My 180's? Let's see...
*Not contacting him unless it concerns the kids or finances. *I've stopped defending myself when he gets all pointy-fingered. *I've actually learned to control my tone of voice. Rather than feed off his negativity, I've learned to keep calm, even when he's irate. *The boys and I have started going to church. *I've stopped offering him a plate when he's around at dinner time. *I've stopped reminding S4 to call H (that has been interesting, as S almost never thinks to do so on his own). *I've started looking into schooling (probably won't do anything about it until my sitch is more stable though). *Going on more outings with the kids. *Not answering his phone calls or responding to his texts immediately. *I've set more limits with the kids. *I think I've become a more positive person in general. I am learning to be grateful for what I do have.
There is a big 180 that I have my eye on, but I am still working up the gall - stop smoking. That one would be huge!
