V19 - I am totally new to posting... that was my first post:
married 20 years this Dec. and back on 8/20 I got the "i don't love you anymore" speech... out of nowhere (of course, after all the reading, etc., it shouldn't have appeared out of nowhere).
I'm the professional, she's been the stay-at-home mom. No abuse, did have an EA with co-worker and she claims that's not it (3 years ago), she said things got better for a short while after that ended, but then went down hill - not sure what she means by that, but otherwise, just a lazy husband and wife about our marriage. She wants nothing to do with counseling.
Reading DR-7 steps, but not familiar with the 37 rules... did I miss those somewhere?
Really started off very deparate until I got Michele's book and got to the "last resort" technique...
the 180 would be me inviting her to move - letting her know that I acknoowledge her needs and being a friend to help her move instead of me being the one that has to move... and doing that before she has a bad day and hits me with the it's time to take the next step letter
